Unfortunately or fortunately, it is impossible to read other people's minds. However, there is such a thing as "body language". It includes a series of gestures that, according to psychologists' observations of many years, most often express a specific set of emotions. The material will give some clarification on how to understand the true attitude of the interlocutor by his gestures.
1. Crossed arms always mean more or less discomfort
Arms crossed on the chest are a universal "protective" posture. Some people even take it on purpose, when they have to communicate with someone who causes negativity and dislike in the first place. But in the overwhelming majority of cases, this position is taken unconsciously. She can express a fairly wide range of negative experiences: fear, resentment, deep mental anguish, stress. In fact, a person seems to embrace himself and create a barrier between himself and the world around him (or the interlocutor).
2. Lack of gesticulation betrays high interest
When a person is very actively gesturing, this suggests that he is much more immersed in his own thoughts and experiences than in his interlocutor. But one detail is important here. If active gesticulation, in principle, is a constant characteristic of a person, then the lack of interest in the interlocutor, it may not mean. But if a person who, as a rule, is not seen waving his hands, suddenly began to actively gesticulate, this may mean that the conversation or the situation is unpleasant for him and he would like to go home as soon as possible.
3. Looking around betrays disinterest
The classic symptoms that the interlocutor is bored with you is glancing around, as well as frequently checking the time on the clock or notifications on the smartphone screensaver. In this case, the arithmetic is simple: if a person is completely absorbed in conversation, it would not occur to him to consider, for example, the inscriptions on the windows. The human brain as a whole is single-tasked, so every second of glancing around your interlocutor is "not with you."
4. Hands in pockets - lack of self-confidence or situations
A person's palms are essentially a tool for his tactile contact with the outside world. If a person seeks to hide them in his pockets, not because his hands are cold without gloves in winter or autumn, but seemingly for no reason, this may mean, first of all, that the person is not confident in himself within the current situation. In essence, such a person is "hiding." At the same time, the interlocutor is in a state of deep nervous concentration: he chooses in his head which phrase or action will show him from the “more self-confident side”. Therefore, passive interlocutors or "eternal listeners" often keep their hands in their pockets.
5. Raised shoulders - fear or subconscious desire to justify
Raised shoulders - this time the classic "defense position". In general, it can give out tension caused by feelings of guilt, including the subconscious. If the raised shoulders are accompanied by a slightly stooped back and a slightly bowed head, "pulled" into the shoulders, this can express fear (for example, strict parents or bullies), helplessness, as well as nervousness coming from subconscious or conscious self-doubt.
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