It is difficult to imagine a feeling that hurts deeper than betrayal. Not everyone is able to forgive her, but everyone will surely remember it for a lifetime. But why, despite a whole bunch of consequences, do people take this risky and difficult step in all respects? Science has found the answer.
Love betrayal is a much more complex and complex concept than the banal phrase "it just happened." Moral aspect aside: American researchers tried to understand the reasons for this phenomenon from a scientific point of view. To do this, they interviewed 495 volunteers aged 20+ who had cheated on their partner at least once in their lives. The results were published in a medical journal Journal of Sex Research. And if you believe them, then this is what the main reasons for treason look like.
1. "Feelings are gone"
Reason # 1, which was named by as many as 77% (!) Of respondents. Moreover, the phrase “I feel that my partner doesn’t love me anymore” and variations on the theme sounded much more often than “I fell out of love”. So keep in mind: a lack of attention and tenderness on the part of the other half often becomes the basis for cheating.
2. Desire to have more sexual partners
It may seem strange, but this is what became Reason # 2. Apparently, not everyone can or wants to control natural instincts.
3. Lack of affection
41% of those surveyed admitted that it was not difficult for them to commit adultery, because they did not feel such a strong attachment to their partner. Moreover, the higher the attachment, the more difficult it is to decide on this step.
4. Random factors
Those "just happened" and "I was drunk." But it is curious that at least one more reason from this list was almost always added to random factors. That is, the state of alcoholic intoxication itself rarely served as a reason for treason.
5. Improving self-esteem
As many as 57% of respondents noted that through cheating and casual relationships, they wanted to increase their self-esteem, to feel more attractive, significant or popular.
43% cheated at least once in order to "take revenge" on their partner. Moreover, it is not so important for what: offense, betrayal, inattention or an unsuccessful gift for the anniversary of their life together.
7. "Closeness for the sake of closeness"
Studies have shown that the option “I just wanted physical intimacy” was much more often chosen by men than women. While women predominantly called cold feelings the main reason for treason.
As you can see, you always need to work on your relationships. And to remind the other half of the feelings, you can arrange these 10 very budget but romantic dates.