Sometimes a person performs actions that unconsciously broadcast his state of mind, show his fears, anxieties, complexes and psychological triggers. The material will tell you how to read the soul of a person through his conversations with a pet, and more.
1. Talking to pets
All owners of cats and dogs, of course, talk to their pets every day. And if the basic phrases ("Go to eat", "You can't!", "Kis-kis!" … The fact is that everyday and sometimes even a little obsessive repetition by the owner of the same phrases addressed to the pet, in fact … STORY ABOUT YOURSELF. So, here are some typical examples. A 65-year-old woman almost every day in a conversation with her beloved cat tells him: "Ba-a-arsichek … Be-e-one … Nobody pays attention to the Barsichka … Poor cat …" (while the cat is often bored and he leaves). Without a psychoanalyst, it is clear that a woman does not have enough attention and she has complaints about her family.
A couple more examples. Male, 40 years old (type "mama's son"): "Timochka! Wretched boy! " (at the same time, the cat is an egoist and a beloved darling) Nobody cares for Timoshenka …”It is noteworthy that in the family from this example, the word“look after”is regularly used when characterizing female applicants for the heart of a 40-year-old boy. If she “looks after well” (cooks three times a day, does laundry, etc.), she is an excellent bride. A 60-year-old man praises a cat for anything: “Ai, Zhora! What a boy! Ai, well done, Zhorik! My boy … I drank some water - that's a fine fellow! …”In this family women pull the cart on themselves, and the man is waiting for praise even for the crookedly nailed glazing bead on the wooden (!) Window.
2. Exhaust yourself with housework to go to bed later
Immediately, we will stipulate that we are not talking about owls who just feel comfortable going to bed deep after midnight, or about those who have urgent things to do and do not have enough time during the day. It is to play for time when you really want to sleep! This destructive pattern of behavior is common among married women. A delicate topic, of course, but the reason is obvious: a woman does not want intimacy, which her husband imposes on her just before bedtime. So rattling pans / going to a record with an iron / rubbing the laminate to a mirror shine poor women who cannot find the strength to just say “I don’t want to”, hoping that their spouse will fall asleep.
3. Coming home late
Even true workaholics, for the objective reason of the blockage at work, who come home after sunset, should think about it. Be honest with yourself: any blockage can still be cleaned up an hour before you close the work door. Truth. You know that. I just don't really want to go home. This pattern of behavior is typical for men who have cooled down towards their other half, but do not find the courage to speak openly. Also "rubble at work" in adult children forced to coexist in the same apartment with elderly household members (oh, this housing issue!).
4. When leaving for work, leave a cup of unfinished coffee on the table
Let the pedants be in no hurry to start a hurdy-gurdy about mismanagement: sometimes it is not a matter of laziness. If you ask a family member who is going to go to work any minute and is scurrying about in the corridor if it is already possible to wash his cup, in some cases the answer is something like this: “No !!! I will still finish drinking !!! " Most likely, of course, he will not finish drinking. So what's the deal? The psychological background in this situation is the discomfort that some people regularly experience when it is necessary to leave the house (after all, the house is a space that protects from the hostile outside world). On a subconscious level, a person does not want to break the connection with a place that guarantees safety, and unfinished coffee / tea is something like a connecting thread, which, moreover, allows you to drag out a little more time, to delay going out the door.
5. Fill the refrigerator with foods you don't want to eat
Yes, yes, despite the fact that most people do not have extra money, some, coming to the supermarket, fill the trolley with products that, after lying in the refrigerator, are useless to anyone, will deteriorate and will be thrown away. Is it only the already mentioned mismanagement here? Of course no. The purchase of products that the one who bought himself does not want to eat and that the family members did not ask for, again signals: there is a psychological problem. If you observe a person in other spheres of life, most likely, it turns out that it is, in principle, difficult for him to make a choice, make a decision, and take responsibility.
How does this relate to the store and the refrigerator? It's simple. If it is difficult to make a decision on their own, a person, as a rule, acts according to a template. The template can be, for example, the choice of other people. You have probably noticed how other customers wandering around the store look into your basket with passion (and sometimes even obsessively follow, partially repeating your set of products). The subconscious mind of such infantiles dictates to them: "Since others buy it, then I also need it." Another template is a model learned in childhood. What did my mother or grandmother and I go to the store for? For bread, milk and loaf! And it doesn't matter that we have not eaten so much bread (and even more so a loaf) for a long time, but we prefer a fermented milk assortment to milk …
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